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Parents want the best for their children and an important part of their growth is learning to look after themselves. This of course, does not happen overnight and the gradual steps to gaining full independence take years. How soon do we start teaching our children to do things for themselves? How much is too much and how do you start? It is up to each parent to find a balance between protecting their child and letting them do things for themselves.

Find appropriate chores

A great way to teach your child responsibility and independence is to give them chores which are appropriate for their age and abilities. Your child may get to a stage where they are eager to help around the house, but this can often fade with time. It is important that they do what they have to do whether they feel like it or not. Show them how to do a task properly and then allow them to complete the task themselves. This will give them a sense of independence and fulfilment. Encourage your child and acknowledge that they are doing something good.

Problem solving and failure

As parents, we tend to overprotect our children and a common mistake we make is solving their problems for them. Next time your child gets themselves in a fix, ask them questions that may help them find the answer. You can ask them how they should handle the situation or what they should do first. Guide them, but do not solve the problem for them. It is also important to allow your child to fail or fall in sometimes. Although it is incredibly difficult to watch it happen, the lesson will leave a more lasting impression than a warning from you instead.

Create routines for your child and stick to them. This will help them manage their tasks and they will find it easier to follow a structure. Never rush your child into independence. Think of it as a process rather than a result and keep supporting them along their journey.

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